Good manners have much to do with emotions. To make them ring true, one must feel them, not merely exhibit them”. Amy Vanderbilt 

Good Manners

To have good manners means we care about other people. It implies caring more about the “we” than the “I”, we are not selfish or ego centric. People’s feelings matter and we aim to please. We pursue harmony and peace and avoid conflict with every effort. Good manners are more abstract and a lot deeper than having etiquette. To Have good manners means to have good traits and good values, to have etiquette means to know the rules for correct behavior. For example the etiquette to table setting, or how to behave at the beach or pool, how to be a good host or guest are all defined with rules and guidelines. On the other hand, learning good manners is more complex than learning etiquette, it is not based on strict rules or guidelines. The process is longer and less tangible, it involves good morals and character.

Good manners is doing the right thing, choosing right over wrong. It is thinking “if I do this” or “say that” would I be hurting or offending anyone. It is showing self discipline in the way we interact with our fellow human beings. It is being nice even when we don’t feel like being nice. It is showing restraint even if we are right. It is keeping calm even if we are entitled to get angry.

Good Manners Characteristics

To Be Kind                                    [note align=”right” width=”177″] Never Be Ashamed To Do The Right Thing[/note]

To Treat Everyone Alike

To Be Thankful

To Be Grateful

To Be Courteous

To Be Nice

To Have Integrity

To Be Honest

To Be Polite                                          [note align=”right” width=”169″] Silence Is Golden, If You Have Nothing Good To Say, No Need To Say Anything[/note]

To Be Positive

To Be Caring

To Greet Everyone

To Admit When Wrong

To Apologise When Needed

To Be Respectful

Do Not Gossip

Do Not Criticise

To Be Patient

To Be Genuine

To Be Friendly                    [note align=”right” width=”161″]The Company You Keep Is as Important as Your Values[/note]

To Be Helpful

To Be Good

To Do Good

To Talk Calmly, not loud

To Be Humble

To Be Modest

Not To Show Off

Not To Belittle

No Arrogance

No Haughtiness

Not Condescending

To Be Truthful

No Swearing

No Name Calling                                        [note align=”right” width=”169″]Tell Me Who Your Friends Are and I will Tell You Who You Are[/note]

No Mocking

No Lying

No Attitude

[note align=”left”]Good Manners means never correcting someone rude or with bad manners[/note]